words of rememberance

I was just wondering when does the negative words pour out. when one remembers a person ? May be when someone has done a un-repairable damage to a person ..... or else i guess with time the negativity diminishes. A friend of mine puts those thought in the written format so that its never lost, and the same intensity is generated whenever one sees it.

What my advice would be,Shakespeare one The world is a stage and all men are mere actors. In movies we get defined characters as Villain, hero.. But in real life there are no villians. Its all heros, its just the situation and the self act makes them do things. and with our limited knowledge one judges right or wrong. :)